They say its all about age. You get irritated more often when you’re old and for no reason at all. Some say it’s climate change. Some insist it’s the kind of food you eat while the rest dismiss it as hormonal imbalance. Or probably, it may have to do with some romantic frustrations, one friend suggested.
It’s normal to burst in anger now and then for the right reasons—like when you bump your smallest toe real hard against the stairs or walk straight against a perfectly clear glass panel which doesn’t seem to be there and bang your head on it, attracting everyone’s attention. Why would anyone clean a glass panel so “perfectly” anyway? He should’ve at least placed a sign saying, “Don’t bump your head here,” or something.
But some people just outright burst in anger for no apparent reason. Your boss calls you to his office about your report and sees you wearing your new thick-framed eyeglasses and he suddenly just scowls and shouts, “Get out of here!” You don’t know what exactly pissed him off—your eyeglasses or your report. He should’ve at least pointed out what it was so you can improve next time. Later, you discover it was all about your big, silly-looking shirt collar. Is that any reason to be irate?
But don’t feel so bad. It’s not really about you or your collar. You see, if you look deeper, some people have deep-seated negative emotions in their subconsciousness they don’t realize they’ve been carrying around for years. It makes them very angry at anything around them, especially when the negative load starts messing up their moods. They themselves don’t know why they’re suddenly so angry.
A young guy never understood why his older brother often got so mad at him even if he didn’t do anything to deserve it. His brother would often find fault unreasonably. Well, his brother had always been envious of him and insecure because he was smarter and always did better at school. But the older brother didn’t know this, either. He just always assumed his brother must be doing something wrong, and somehow, strangely, he felt good when he did that. And that good feeling, to him, was some kind of a “confirmation” that his younger brother, indeed, must be doing something wrong.
You remember how King Saul felt that way with young David? See the story on 1 Samuel 18 in the bible. For no reason, King Saul hated David even if David showed Saul all the loyalty he could give him. But studying the passage, you’d see how frustration, envy, insecurity and the ego all worked together to keep Saul furious against David. So the culprit is deep-seated negative emotion in the subconscious. When this emotion grows and overwhelms you and starts ruling you, the bible calls it an evil spirit. Evil spirits are real. This is what they often do to their slaves.
You may not believe about evil spirits or anything spooky like that, but one thing’s for sure—it’s a negative emotion lodging deep in you that’s making you do it. And it has to be settled. If not, it will keep growing, and that would start the rotten character in you as you grow old. Aging is not supposed to make you rotten. It’s supposed to make you wiser with life experiences and more broad-minded like Moses. That’s what neuroplasticity is discovering today, I mean the capacity to improve with age, not Moses. But with negative emotions breeding like germs deep inside you, you’d just gather more negativity in you. Now you know why there are difficult people.
The solution is simple—you have to recognize the problem, admit it, and correct yourself. In the bible, this is solved by fully surrendering your life to God through Jesus Christ and then God himself will workout a change for the better in you. The key here is full surrender.
The tragedy is that, you see many church folks who claim to have fully surrendered to God through Christ but have remained rotten, if not worsened. King Saul often claimed to have repented but went right back to trying to kill David. Even Judas Iscariot, a disciple of Jesus, never overcame his deep-seated negative emotions in his subconscious, even if he was with Jesus most of the time. You can claim to be “close to Jesus” and yet remain burdened all your life with a negative load—unless you see the problem, honestly admit it, and meekly allow God to correct you.